Letter From A Friend | #sincerelyme

I’ve decided to recycle a post from my old blog…I know, that sounds a little light cheating in the world of content, but that blog will be coming down and I feel strongly about continuing to make this post available for those that need it.

This open letter received a lot of great feedback and comments from people saying that some days they really needed to hear this particular message, which is why I wanted to transfer it to my new site.  No, it has nothing to do with entertainment, events, or hospitality, it just has to do with being a good and supportive person for those around you- and maybe for some people you’ll never meet.

So, without further ado, here is my open letter to you, my friend.


Originally Posted: June 16, 2015
Original Blog: Songs of a Gypsy Soul

Dear Friend,

Breathe…

This is an open letter to anyone that feels alone and lost; lonely and broken down; cracked and wrong; invisible and small; burdened and heavy.  This is a letter from me to you.  This is a letter from a person you may know in realtime, or maybe just someone you’ve seen on the street in passing, or maybe from someone you’ve never met at all.  Regardless of our relationship status, today I am here speaking to you as a friend.

In this Universe, there is nothing more valuable than your heart, soul, and mind all rolled into one beautiful and terribly messy package.  That package is you.  Our world exists and revolves around the people who inhabit it.  Without humankind, what innovations, what thoughts, what emotions would exist?

You are unique, no matter your size.  No matter your sexual orientation, gender, marital status, ancestry, political affiliation, and so on; you are your own perfect individual.  No one can compare to you because no one is identical on any grounds.  We may intersect and we may have pieces in common with one another, but we are all our own special breed.  Be proud of that and let no one make you question yourself and what you stand for.  You have so much to offer this world.  Do not let negative people dismiss your dreams and redesign your future.  Do not let those people pull out the silver lining from the pillows of compassion and love that surround you.  And most importantly, do not let yourself become a victim and prisoner of your own darkness.  You have the potential to be your own worst enemy.  Do not submit to the demons that inevitably hid within the darkest crevices of your soul.  Yes, they are there, everyone has them, but do not set them free.  Do not let them push and prod you.  You are not their pin cushion and you are not their slave.  Choose to recognize that they stand for your own imperfections, which then, if you let them, becomes the definition of your own true perfection.  Be the own ruler of your heart, soul, and mind.  Choose to honor yourself and pick a pedestal to stand upon that is becoming of you.  Go!  Be proud of who you are and be positive in all you do.

Yes, maybe that is all easier said than done as the saying goes, but that is why I am here.  I am here as another pair of eyes for you to look through.  My eyes see you like no one else’s.  My view of you as a person is not the same as the way you see yourself.  I wish, I wish with all my strength that we could trade perspectives just for a few minutes so you can see what I see.

Because I see strength.

I see more strength in you than you ever thought possible.  And no, it’s not in the most normal of ways.  Maybe you’re strong of mind.  Maybe you have the power to envision beautiful plans and mentally fuse together ideas so brilliant that will one day be the way of our futures.  On another hand, maybe your are strong of heart and are able to empathize with those around.  You are that person down on hands and knees weeping with another because you feel for them.  You feel through them.  You may not have personally been subjected to their struggles, but you cry for their heartaches alongside them.

Then again, maybe your strength lies in your soul.  You are certain of who you are and what you stand for.  You may have gone through hell and back in your life thus far, but you are relentless in your journey forward.  You can be bruised and thrown around, but your core remains strong and pure.

That is all true strength.  Those are not strengths that exercise can build, but rather products of personality, triumphs, and struggle all molded into one mass.

I wish, I wish we could trade perspectives for even a few minutes because I see selflessness.

I see a selflessness in you that is unlike any other.  You would throw away your own health or your own time to help another; in order to pick someone else up, dust them off, and hear their story.  I see compassion and love within your heart that has the power to mend the voids in another’s.  Keep that.  Do not let go of that purity and palpitating devotion you have for the betterment of mankind.  But do not forget to be a little selfish as well.  Do not sacrifice all that you are to the point of exhaustion.  The world needs you whole and strong.  If you cannot heal and help yourself, how do you expect to be able to continue helping others?  Only relinquish what you have to the point of coexistence.  Then, if you can both live and breathe comfortably, you know you have found your balance.  But if you are struggling to grasp a single breath, then step back.  Take your time and center yourself.  Re-find you within this crazy mixed-up world.

And I wish, I wish we could trade perspectives for even a few minutes because I see above and beyond and through what you think is blocking your path.

I have the vantage point of a bird in a tree.  I am able to see past the sun, the moon, the clouds, and the stars.  I can see beyond the wall that is seemingly holding you back.  I can see the lit part of the path that you have yet to turn and find.  You are not alone and you are most certainty not lost.  You are right where you are supposed to be.  I cannot promise that you’re content with that current location, but I can promise that a single step forward will make all the difference.  That single step forward, if you look around, will have new possibilities in store.  New opportunities can arise, new places can be seen, and new people can be met.  Do not let your feet grow roots and pull you down.  Just find the courage within yourself to leap into the unknown that is in front of you and meet what is in store with all that you are.  If you feel as though there’s no going up, maybe the trees around you are just too thick for you to see over the side of the mountain that you are climbing.  Do not doubt the path that you’re traveling down and do not neglect to examine the paths that cross yours along the way.  And remember, in the words of Walt Disney, to always keep moving forward.

And finally, I shall close this letter with two last thoughts I would like to impart to you.  First, find positivity in your life and find any reason you can to smile.  Everything seems to be closer and easier to grasp- closer to possible- when paired with a smile and positive energy.  They are also contagious.  They are contagious in the best way possible.  Positivity begets positivity.  Share a laugh and a smile, with family, friends, and strangers and watch what happens.  And second, whenever you begin to feel overwhelmed, do not make hasty decisions.  Take ten seconds to stop.  And breathe.  A deep breath will help to calm and clear the mind.  Take those few seconds to remind yourself that you are not being suffocated by the situation because you can still breathe.

…and Exhale.

All my best,

AlexandraMottershead.com

 

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All About Contemplation Cards

I actually have an abridged version of this post as a highlight on my Instagram page, but I wanted to talk about my contemplation cards deck and explain what they are, how I interpret their purpose, and how they can improve your life.  I post about these cards on my Instagram daily, so I wanted to take some time to explain them further and hopefully inspire others to think about their purpose.

(1) What are contemplation cards?

They are a deck of 60 cards that have single, though-provoking words on each card.  The creator of this particular deck states that these cards are a “tool for introspection and positive intention.”  I use these cards for reflection also.

Contemplation Cards FAQ - Card Deck

(2) How do these cards work and what do you do with them?

There is no right or wrong way to use these cards.  For me, I choose one card from the deck each day.  It’s as simple as that.  For others, they may choose a card for the week, for the month, for special occasions, and so on.

(3) What do you mean by affirmations, intention, and reflection?

We are surrounded by constant stimulation and are constantly on the move, so sometimes we need some help to focus our minds and reflect on our lives.  I use these cards to choose a word that I will then think about in reference to what has been going on in my life and what I want my life to include in the future.  For example, if I picked the word love, I could reflect on the opportunities within in this day that I got to spend with my family and friends and be grateful for the support they provide.  Another option is to set an intention or create an affirmation based on the word.

Let’s break down the difference between those two, since it is a hotly contest topic as to which is better, before I continue on with my example…

Affirmations are declarations that something is true.  These are written and stated in a positive and present tense.  Think “I am.”

Intentions are commitments to carrying out an action in the future.  These are written and stated in a future-thinking tense and are also positive in nature.  Think “I will.”

As I was saying, if I were to set an affirmation regarding the word love, I could say “I am loved.”  If I was creating an intention, I could say “I am striving to surround myself with love and to send love out into the world.”

These types of thoughts are extremely powerful and are helpful tools for getting your mind into a positive and grateful place.  It is easy to take for granted the little things in life and it is easy to get bogged down my negative people and energies, so it is important to have little daily reminders of all the good you are surrounded by.

(4) Where did you get your deck?  Who made it?

I bought my deck at one of my favorite stores in Philly: Open House!  Next time you’re in the city make sure to check them out.  (They’re right across from McGillin’s!)  You can also check out Chronicle Books, the creator, and buy the same deck online right here.

(5) What inspired you to buy them?

My first inspiration to buy cards likes these was Broadway actress Sierra Boggess.  She has an Angel Card deck, which is also a deck of words used for contemplation, that she chooses words from and posts on her website log and on her InstaStory/Feed.  If you’re interested, join her mailing list so you can get each month’s keyword that unlocks her “I Am Enough” section of her website where she writes about the Angel Card she pulled for that month.

My second inspiration to buy cards like these was my yoga studio, the Prancing Peacock!  There is a portion of the yoga class I take that is dedicated to meditation.  During that time, John, my usual instructor, will ask us to set an intention for our practice, or for our day.  Hearing about that in class made me think about setting intentions and thusly inspired me to buy my contemplation cards deck.

(6) How can these cards actually improve your life?

As I talked about in my answer to question #3, these cards can be used a tool to help you focus in on various, positive aspects of your life.  The deck contains words such as celebration, communication, creativity, renewal, detoxify, hope, acceptance, responsibility, and more!  An easy way to become a more introspective person is to take a few minutes out of each day to focus on a single word and how it relates to your life or how you want it to relate to your life in the future.  This is a very simple form of personal care, self-assessment, and positive thinking.  Everyone could use a little more of those things in their lives, so an easy way to start down that path is to pick one card a day and watch how your life changes one little step at a time!

Contemplation Cards FAQ - Instagram Stories

I hope this post has inspired you to buy your own deck, or at least start setting a little time aside each day to think more consciously about your life!  You can check out what my word of the day is in my InstaStories and by checkout out the hashtag #contemplationcards on Instagram as well!  Happy intention setting!

All my best,

AlexandraMottershead.com

 

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Meet Alex!

I guess introductions are in order: I’m Alex!

This post will be a mix of who I am in a personal and professional sense, because those two sides of my life and my personality are very much connected.  (However, this post will not cover the story of how I became involved with theatre.  If you’re interested in reading more about that, click here!)

I grew up in Bucks County, PA, just outside of Philadelphia, so I am on Team Wawa, I say “wooder” ice, and cheesesteaks and soft pretzels have always been go-to foods for me!  (Edit: I’m a vegetarian now so cheesesteaks probably shouldn’t be on that list anymore…)

I have two wonderful parents who somehow managed to raise me and my three other siblings without going completely insane, and I am very thankful to be surrounded and supported by all of them (and my extended family as well).  Bailey, the family dog, is boxer-hound mix and pretty much runs the house.  The day we adopted her she gave us each and actual HUG, with her paws around our necks, and we were sold right then and there.  I am also incredibly fortunate to have friends around the world who love me unconditionally and keep me grounded as well.  Lastly, to my professional network, thank you for your guidance and for providing me with keys to open doors to the adventures I’ve already gone and and those I have yet to start.  I would be remiss not to mention the foundational role all these people (and animals) have played in my life.  To all of you, I am eternally grateful and thankful.

The Blog: About Alex! - Family, Friends, Network

As I grew up, the Arts were a big part of my life.  We played art school around the living room table when I was young, I joined local community theatre groups and choreographed for others as I got older, I played mallets until I graduated high school, and have dabbled in writing, doodling, and various Pinteresting pursuits over the years.  I’ve learned a lot about who I am and have been fortunate enough to be able to extract and hone various transferable skills from these endeavors.

As for my education, I went to Temple University in Philadelphia, PA and received a Bachelor of Science in Tourism and Hospitality Management in May 2017 from the School of Sport, Tourism and Hospitality Management (STHM).  I graduated with honors, Magna Cum Laude; with a minor in General Business; as a member of the University Honors Program; and as an inducted member of the International Hospitality Management Society, Eta Sigma Delta. (P.S. I had the honor of being the keynote speaker for the 2018 induction ceremony!)  My next educational pursuit is the Event Leadership Institute’s online Technical Meeting & Event Production Certificate course so stayed tuned to hear how that works out!

The Blog: About Alex! - Graduation 2017

Through my education and my career thus far, I’ve had the opportunity to intern and work for a variety of companies on the East Coast.  As this blog progresses, I am hoping to pull out some stories from those experiences and share them with everyone.  But, the last piece of information I wanted to share in this first blog is the my professional brand statement.  Over the last several years, I have been editing and reworking this statement to highlight things that I want my career to reflect.  As of right now, I boiled it down to two beliefs and two promises:

I believe…

…in encouraging people to visualize success, work hard, and exceed their own expectations of themselves; to rise above the constraints they’ve created.

…that all industry experience is relevant experience, and that a diversified experience portfolio is the key to success and innovative thought.

I promise…

…to take the intangible ideas and concepts of others and transform them into experiences that exceed expectations and leave a lasting, positive, and memorable impact on others and the industry as a whole.

…to create spaces where acceptance is not a stranger, and creativity and artistry are free to grow and inspire.

Well, thanks for stopping by and following my adventures in hospitality, entertainment, and events!  I would love for this to be an interactive site, so please send me a message or leave a comment on what you think, stories of your adventures, and even something as simple as your favorite quote.  Let’s stay in touch!

All my best,

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Edited: 02-21-19